"Almost a Mother"

Hello Again....


In my last post I mentioned how my son has taught me that one cannot be "Almost a Mother". It's a bit like being "kinda' pregnant". As a Mother myself, I can see why one has to be a Mother 100% from the moment we--- as educated, intelligent and free-thinking women ---make the decision of becoming Mothers: because WE chose to be Mothers. I think that makes sense.


Someone once said that "with great power comes great responsibility" and it is very true. Mothers really are super-heroes if you think about all the things that being a Mother involves. And yes, WE DO HAVE THE POWER to decide whether we get pregnant or not. Whether we are going to adopt that child, whether we try IVF or whatever... Women these days do have a lot of choices. We can chose to be great business women and focus our life on a fulfilling career... or we can chose to become Mothers. Yes, we do have many choices and the power to decide what we want to do with OUR lives.


But! The moment we make the decision to become a Mother, the choices are no longer there for US and responsibility should must kick in and our priority becomes that little soul who WE chose to bring into this world. Motherhood is not only a responsibility, but a blessing and something to cherish and enjoy. It's not easy (all real Mothers know that) but it's rewarding, more than any job or amount of money in the world. Work? Yes, work is easy if we compare it to Motherhood. Work is something that has a beginning and an end in a day, work is predictable if you're organised enough, work allows you to sleep at night, work is something you can quit if you don't like it or you don't like your boss, work is something you can find anywhere at anytime, work has weekends and holidays, work is something you can switch off like a mobile phone when you've just had enough.... Motherhood on the other hand....


So what's the trend these days? Be half a mother and half a career woman. What for? So one can do just that? Be a Mother who does a poor job as a Mother and be a career woman who does a poor job there, too... Yes, that's the trend. It's accepted these days. It's okay to do that, all because of a wrong "right" and probably a devious feminist movement that keeps wanting to brainwash us with "our right to do as we please!.... our right to be like men.... our right to progress and succeed!" which is all fine.... but what about the rights of our CHILDREN??? Where do they begin? Children who WE chose to bring into this world because WE are SOOO smart and SOOO have a right to do as we please...


Children have a right to have a MOTHER... not an "almost mother", not a "half-mother" not a mother who will be there for them when she has a free moment, not a mother who has to find what to do with her child because she's late for work. Not a mother who will make them feel like they're in their mother's way. Not a mother who works to pay for some stranger to raise her child....

Why this Blog...?

Hi Everyone....
I wanted to write this blog not to have a go at anyone in particular or in general, but to share the way I feel and my thoughts on Motherhood. I do wish to state that it will never be my intention to offend or contradict anyone. I simply wish to share some facts that I believe all Mothers and Mothers-to-be should consider.


I am a 42 year old Mother of a beautiful 4 year old boy. I was blessed with a healthy, happy boy, who eats well, sleeps well, has some minor allergies which are manageable, and is very clever and funny. He loves playing all boy things and enjoys his books and can write his name and read a few words now. So, I can't complain. I have been blessed with this child who has taught me so many important things, I wish to share with you all.


One of the things I learnt from my son is that one cannot be "Almost a Mother"... you either are or you're not at all. I spend a lot of time with him, making him feel secure, loved, nurtured as well as looking after his main needs such as a healthy, balanced diet. When he's sick, I'm able to get up three or four times in the middle of the night and spend the next day with him, making sure he's comfortable and looked after. I've been able to participate in all his activities and witness every milestone from the day he opened his eyes, looked at me and smiled. I think of the four years that I've spent with him and how fast they've gone by and I think of all those moments that I know will never return. But those moments are embedded in my mind and in my heart forever. Moments I wouldn't change or give up for anything in the world.... not even a job.